Often times you tend to be aggressive or get into bad mood, get into difficult conversations at the company or in the family, can't get over something you really miss, are confused or into any other state of mind in which you really don't want to be, but due to human nature, you find it difficult to control your emotions.
Keeping the objective in mind is the key. No matter what you do, you have to know what you are getting from it. You might think that this seems materialistic and only applies to materialistic actions e.g. by helping someone you are not getting anything. But, you are getting something and that is the internal satisfaction, the happiness which comes when you make someone else happy. This is by no means materialistic, and if it's then everything is.
Aggressiveness is one of the wide spread negative habit which most of the humans have, at least most of the people I have seen. Aggressive nature, esp. at work is quite harmful to none other than the aggressor himself. Not only at work, but in family dealings as well, this may result in disruptions in family relationships mainly due to both parties being aggressive. What can keep you from getting aggressive? It's the objective!
Nonetheless, being cool-minded all the times is not that easy, but it's not that hard too and it's necessary for one to be successful and this applies to every aspect of life i.e. there are lot of advantages. After all, who likes a person who offends and charges other people every now and then?
Whenever you are in a bad mood, you need to remember the objective..What’s the use of being into such a mood? You are just wasting time and energy, which could've been utilized in something more important to you. Controlling your emotions is one of the main elements of leading a leader's life and realizing the fact that others don't like to be taken up by someone, an element of respect has to appear in everything you say or anything you perform.
Everyone is unique or at least wants to be, distinction attracts every human. So, realizing the fact that you are in a state of uselessness is the first step towards realizing that you need not be in that state most of the time. Don't you think everyone does the same when he's in a bad mood or when he loses his temper? So, you either want to be the same as others or you indulge into something which makes you distinct.
You might want to read about EQ (Emotional Quotient), plus there's a book which you might have heard about "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" and the sequels to it as well.
Something off-topic, a 3D First Person Shooter named Commando 4 has been developed by some FAST Karachi students.
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As you said, it's not easy to control over yourself when you are in negative mood. Another way of looking at the situation is as a 2nd person, i.e., if you see a friend or colleague in such a situation try to help him/ her by reminding the finer points about human attitude. Same goes for family issues.
You have very well pointed out that it's one of the most wide spread problems in our society. Hundreds and thousands of people around us are suffering from it. Help them! There is an NGO with a very nice name: "Humanity First!" Make that an important factor on which you base your goals as well as decisions.
sometimes being agressive is required under the circumstances.
یہ گوگل کے اشتہاروں پر کیا چلنا شروع ہو گیا ہے؟
I agree what you said - I am a proponent of EQ/EI rather than IQ since control over one's emotional state is more important than merely solving jigsaw puzzles with objects and shapes.
You may find my thinking at:
http://jahojalal.blogspot.com/2009/10/what-do-we-need-more-iq-or-eq.html
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